For children, it signals that soon, for one night, they will transform [...]]]> It’s that time of year again, when beautiful autumn colors begin to resonate, apples and cider fill our markets, hot chocolate and donuts fill our tummies, and houses are festively decorated with corn stalks, scarecrows and pumpkins. These are signs of fall. 

For children, it signals that soon, for one night, they will transform themselves into their favorite superstar or cartoon character. Then, parading from door to door, saying those all familiar words, “Trick or Treat”, with anticipation of what they will receive. Each pumpkin-lit porch is an invitation that something yummy awaits them.  Bowls and buckets filled with candy bars to Smarties and other sweet treats, and treat-givers anxiously awaiting their arrival.

I think as parents and care givers; we should seize every opportunity to teach our children some valuable life lessons. Special events, holidays, and season appropriate occasions such as this, create an atmosphere for children to learn naturally. These are called the “teachable moments” that present themselves in day-to-day life. Using them to teach children important life lessons of manners and social skills will help them grow into considerate and responsible citizens. Thus, just because your child is dressed like a Goblin for Halloween, doesn’t mean he or she needs to have Ghostly manners; yet to use this opportunity by teaching your little Goblin some important life skills that will make them as sweet as the candy they receive. 

For example, instructing children to use sidewalks rather than cutting across someone’s lawn, or to walk through a well cared-for flowerbed, or to squeeze through neatly edged shrubs, demonstrates an attitude of value and respect for another’s property. Nor, should a child ever touch or take anything that doesn’t belong to them, including toys that have been left in the yard.

When approaching a house to find that others have beaten you to the door, be patient and wait your turn, rather than elbowing your way to the front. Yet, when you’re the first in line, and you turn to find a crowd, say, “Excuse me please”, as you pass on by. These are the polite words to use.

This is also the perfect time to have your child practice his or her presentation skills. Encourage your child to look directly into the treat-givers eyes and with a smile on their face, say those magic words, “Trick or Treat”, clearly enough to be heard.

“May I have one, two or even three”? is not for a child to ask. However, to take one, until another is offered, is the courteous thing to do. Then, of course, just as magic as the words trick or treat, are the words “Thank you”, because these express a grateful attitude.

Last, but not least, as your child sneaks a treat, teach them to put the wrappers in their pocket for safe keeping, until they get home.

You see, there’s really “no trick” to teach your kids manners, and a “real treat” when they use them! So, be safe! Have fun! And don’t forget, “Have a happy trick or treat, as you sweetly teach”.

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